It’s been said many times over that all good things must come to an end. With this post, I aim to remind us too that just as good things come to an end, so do the bad things.
When we are in feel-good situations or are happy with the way our lives are going, we may say, “I wish this could last forever.” Likewise, there can be a moment when suddenly it no longer feels good. Whether our time in the experience is limited (like on a vacation) or we lose that job we love, sometimes we must face the fact that the good things in life can end.
When we are in darker situations, however, we may say, “Is it over yet?” and feel as if the time couldn’t fly fast enough. We may become depressed and lose hope that life is worth living for even one more second. It happens. It has happened to me many times. But then the clouds part, even just slightly, and a ray of sunshine shines through. The darkness in life can end too.
I believe it is very difficult in those uncomfortable, scary and trying times of our lives to see a way out. We may wish, hope and pray, yet continue to live in a cycle of despair day in and day out. For some, this cycle is harder to break because they may not be able to find a job to replace the one they lost or perhaps they have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and then end is so absolute.
I also believe that we can forget in those moments not only how short life really is and that we do have at least some control over things, but that there is a lesson to be learned and/or a strength to be gained.
Medications can help us when we are in what feels like a never-ending battle, but I won’t advocate one way or another here. Medications aside, I think if we wait for our situations to change or that light to shine through, we may find ourselves waiting for a very long, long time. Regardless, it will eventually come to an end — perhaps an end we didn’t wish for.
It makes more sense to me that we begin to act in a way that is opposite our despair and even if it doesn’t change our circumstances, it can change the way we feel in those circumstances.
For anyone who is reading this and going through a time in their life when they feel hopeless, I’ve been there too. I know the sadness and I know the pain. You are not, I repeat, NOT alone. I encourage you to reach out and try hard to learn how to believe you are worth fighting for.
Just as the good things in life can come to an end, so can the bad because eternity is the only thing that lasts forever.